Online dating brings singles together who may never otherwise meet.
My first thought after a friend forwarded me an article about the dating spreadsheet kept by a New York man was, “My spreadsheet is much better!
” But after several more people contacted me about the news item — including a former girlfriend who had no knowledge of my spreadsheet but apparently knows me all too well — I started to think that, more than just yet another Internet meme, such spreadsheets actually captured the zeitgeist of modern dating.
I, like David Merkur, work in finance and stare at Excel for 12 hours a day.
For better or worse, those little Microsoft-created cells are how I organize my thoughts.
Perhaps a writer would reflect on (and track his life through) a journal, or even fiction or poetry, but my medium is rows upon rows of data.
And not just at work: I have spreadsheets to track my finances, the books I’ve read, the countries I’ve visited and which combinations of friends might enjoy a dinner party together — that would be the very useful “friend interaction matrix,” responsible for many a successful social gathering whose participants were brought together, unwittingly, by spreadsheet.More to the point, online dating is a brutal game that happens to lend itself well to being systematized.For every 10 messages I send on a dating site, I only receive one or two replies.That’s despite the fact that my messages are well thought out, mention common interests and ask questions.Sometimes, I email a woman who seems a perfect match yet receive no response.Or, I finally meet one, but despite a great email exchange, chemistry lacks.