That’s the number one question that I get from my patients. But I can tell you what I wrote in my book Size Matters about research on how often people actually have sex.
There’s no way I can tell you how often you “should” have sex—that depends on so many things, such as your age and health and a host of other things.
It turns out that for married couples under 30 years of age; the frequency (on average) is about twice a week.
So now you know how often your neighbors may be having sex. Some couples are happy with more frequent sex, some happy with less frequent sex.
And that’s really the point: not how much sex you’re having, but whether you and your partner are happy with the sex you’re having, regardless of the frequency.
If one, or both, of you isn’t happy then there are plenty of things that might be going on.
I love to say that the “Penis is the dipstick of the bodies’ health”.
Regardless of age, couples also tend to have sex more frequently in the early stages of their relationships.
Among couples in the first two years of their relationships, 67% of gay couples, 45% of heterosexual couples, and 33% of lesbian couples had sex three times a week or more.The numbers drop off somewhat with time: for couples who had been together 10 years or longer, 11% of the gay couples, 18% of the heterosexual couples, and 1% of the lesbian couples were having sex that often.People may have good reason to worry about the amount of sex they are having in their relationships – having more sex is linked to positive outcomes.Sex gives us a clue to how healthy an individual—and a relationship really is. There’s no way I can tell you how often you “should” have sex—that depends on so many things, such as your age and health and a host of other things.In my next blog, I’ll focus on how to have more sex and why some couples rarely have sex. That’s the number one question that I get from my patients. But I about research on how often people actually have sex.And that’s really the point: not how with the sex you’re having, regardless of the frequency.