Walking into a café, bar or party, my mind often buzzes with questions about myself. ”If a man tells you something that’s true for him, but you don’t want to believe it, and you continue to move ahead with that relationship, you are likely to get hurt.
It’s so easy to think you’re the only one who is nervous, but it’s not true. He always wants to spend time with me.”Since relationship is of the utmost importance to me, I’ve changed my mind in the past when I said I wanted to be single and an amazing man came along. While there may be something between the lines, definitely read the lines!
The men I coached today told me the same thing happens for them! One fear I often hear from women is – But if he saw that part of me, he wouldn’t want me. So, rather than having your attention on hiding parts of you, be proud of who you are. I acted laid back and was afraid a man would run away if he saw the Type A side of my personality.
When you remember that men are human too, you can stop trying to hide your emotions and your nervousness. In fact, I’ve often seen men fall in love with women because of them.
Knowing this helps you stop putting men on pedestals.
There is a little boy inside every man, just as there is a little girl inside every woman, who has been hurt, disappointed, misunderstood and unseen.
It’s important to remember that you can’t be everything to a man! When you can be playful or vulnerable with this, rather than immediately making him wrong, he’ll feel closer to you and grateful that he doesn’t have to put a part of himself in a box.
It can be frustrating when a man you’re with looks at other women. If he can’t keep his eyes off other women that’s one thing. A man not looking at other women’s beauty is like a woman not looking at babies, puppies, or shoes!
Starting to play with your own variety – how you dress, walk, talk and dance – will keep a man enticed!
I used to find myself saying “That’s not me,” when I went shopping.
If a man tells you he’s not ready for relationship, believe him! It can feel a bit contrived at first, but you can do this authentically. You may have to dig a bit if you’re used to complaining or seeing the negative.