Editor's Note: I've been plus-size my entire adult life.I've been as large as 406lbs and as "small" as my current 220.I have experienced the gamut of plus-size dating trials and successes. The only girl born in the hospital that day, you could say I was destined to be the big girl in the room. Nearly every day, I'm reminded by media, society, or my mirror about my weight and how it affects my dating life.
There is a belief that those who are deemed unattractive in society (this includes being big) have no right to have standards.
Confidence is important for any woman to have, big or small. Quiet as its kept, some plus sized women have more going on in that department than their smaller friends.
I was fortunate enough to be raised to love myself, but confidence is like a muscle; if you don't use it, it will deteriorate. I will admit there is a population of men who deliberately go after big girls believing that we are easy prey. There are just as many superficial jerks chasing after slim women.
The ability to remain secure with yourself can require constant effort from anyone. I despise when people patronizingly offer me food, especially sweets (I'm not a sweets eater at all).
I've been dating since I was 15 and I have barely been single since. In dating situations, guys may ask if I want something to eat. The rattle off a litany of sweet, sugary treats like a rude auctioneer, waiting for me to bid on something fattening.
The only reason I'm single now is because I haven't chosen anyone to be with. As a last ditch effort they go, "Are you SURE you don't want anything to eat?
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