Putting yourself out there is difficult, and let’s face it, dating is just downright scary sometimes.
So the last thing you need as a singleton is to be scammed while trying to meet someone online, right?
The popularity and activity in the online dating world increases during the period between Christmas Day and Valentine’s Day, as confirms that they expect a 60% increase in new members.
And although there are many successful online dating stories like that shared by Amelia and Juan, we just need to be a bit more vigilant.
To prove that this can happen to anyone, take note of this local Cape Town-based social media manager’s recent Tinder scam story. I should have spotted this a mile away.” We have this idea that scams only happen to naïve, uneducated people who are preyed on by evil online perpetrators you’d personally be able to spot from the get-go. After meeting on Tinder, Susan* started having doting conversations with an attractive man for about 2 weeks. ” He said he was American and only in Cape Town for a short period of time. Being weary of strangers Susan* gives him her work address as the delivery address.
Soon after, he started promising her extravagant gifts (Chanel, Tiffany jewellery, Louboutin heels), messaging: “I got you something nice” – sending a picture of a Rolex watch. Just before meeting he got called home for an emergency. But then he asks her to pay the customs tax for the gifts – it must be paid via EFT.
Mmmm…“But I was like, if you can afford all this stuff, then why am I paying the tax?
His silence spoke volumes.” She reported him on Tinder and Facebook and his profiles were deleted. Only, he was so nice and relatable that Susan* even found it comfortable enough to tell him about her recent Tinder scamming.
She *face-palmed* hard, but says that this really proves it can happen to anyone – whether you are online savvy or not.
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Sutherland explains that a clear warning bell should go off when they try to avoid a physical meeting and when they constantly cancel or refuse to meet in public places.
” He said he’d send her the cash to pay the customs tax.
Susan* Googled the courier company and decided to call them after seeing their not South African-based. “This sounds kind of legit, yet when I called the airport they had no record of this company.
So I called the courier company back, and asked when the payment has to be done.