…as I quickly found out it’s very different in your 30s than in your 20s; things have changed. Now however, they are all paired off, settled down, off the shelf and there is the added minefield of multi-platform stalkfests such as Facebook and internet dating sites to navigate. Many of my coupled friends say pretty much the same, go down the club and find someone ffs.
That was 12 months ago, and wow has it been an interesting ride. Thinking was Match might have the biggest selection and Guardian Soulmates would be full of left leaning woman who might fit nicely. Don’t get me wrong I’m not going to reject someone just because there politics are not aligned with mine – that would be very bad.
The messages and dates have ranged from the lovely to the out-and-out bonkers. for me was a total joke, I signed up for 1 month to try it out and although I did talk to a few woman nothing really got far. Heck since then, I’m sniffy about all types of things.. But you expect someone on Guardian Soulmates to have a slightly left leaning viewpoint on the world.
I did go on one or two dates but what that was about the time I really noticed how much people will lie in there profiles. Had a woman once lie about which country she was from, why? Internet dating is a bit like catalogue shopping for someone you want to hang out with.
Little thumbnail pictures of, in the Guardian’s case: X hanging out with friends, or X building an African village and then X skydiving for charity.
Or in Match.com’s case: X lifting up his top to show his abs and his ex-girlfriend’s name tattooed on his chest.
Among all the faces and messages, I started to communicate with a few blokes that seemed nice so started to meet up for the odd date. All the guys I got on with and fancied didn’t come from Manchester.
Derby, Sheffield, Kent, Liverpool – all great dates, all who I would see again.
Manchester, on the other hand, seemed to be a hotbed of dating disaster.
If you are comparing online dating with looking in a catalogue, your maybe not taking it seriously?
I do know what she means about the photos and I’ve already had my say about those.
And I won’t lie a pattern is emerging for me too, mainly to do with the Cholton area of Manchester, although I wouldn’t say I have any hotbed disasters, there have been a few places I would be weary of in the future.