Perhaps this is why are fantasies are so appealing.
I am going through a number of personal events at the moment.
I have recently ended a relationship that lasted over half a decade and am beginning a new one. Or, more specifically, what love can be defined as psychologically.
At the same time I am taking a free online lecture course from Yale in psychology. Developed by noted psychologist Robert Sternberg, one widely used psychological conception of love used is Of course, a “perfect” relationship in Sternberg’s view contains all three components, but the various combinations of these psychological aspects of love create eight separate permutations that cover almost all relationships.
The diligent thing to do, as you are all budding psychologists I’m sure, is to create a list of all the people you know and categorize them on the basis of the type of love you have with them.
Do these conceptions of love fit your relationship? Maybe you will realize your love is more full (or sadly less full) than you expected.
While we are on the subject, we might as well outline a bit more about the psychological study of love.Contrary to many of our fantasies about how love begins (stranger’s eyes meet across a crowded room and it’s love at first sight), the main predictors of love are much more mundane than many of us think.The largest predictors of who will be in a relationship are .Psychologists have found that how familiar you are with a person predicts whether or not you will enter into a relationship with that person.That is to say, it is very unlikely that you will end up dating a complete stranger.Similarity is also a major factor in predicting who will end up together.