The first and seemingly most daunting challenge for an introvert is: where are the best places to meet people?While there value in being able to break out of one’s comfort zone on occasion, most introverts aren’t going to be comfortable with making what’s known as a cold approach: that is, approaching a complete stranger and attempting to start a conversation that hopefully leads to a relationship.If you’re not the sort of person who likes small talk or approaching strangers, what are your best options?
An introvert is – very simply – someone who’s personal energy (physical as well as mental) tends to be drained by social interaction and recharged through more solitary pursuits.
Introverts tend to prefer, or even thrive in, more solitary activities rather than dealing with large groups of people.
On the whole they tend to be a more reserved and less outspoken than extroverts.
Some introverts prefer lower levels of stimulation and find incredibly busy venues – such as loud noisy bars or parties – to be stressful and disorienting and can be prone to overstimulation.
Someone who’s Obviously, like many things, introversion and extroversion tend to fall on a sliding scale.
Some people are just the quiet type who tend to be quiet and not speak unless they have something specific to contribute, while others are dedicated loners who’d rather avoid people as much as possible. but it can also be seen as “reserve”, the “strong, silent type” or even appealingly hidden depths.
Still waters run deep, after all and there’s no reason why you can’t make that work for you.
A little bit of mystery and a reputation for being observant and clever – if a little reserved – can work wonders.
I give a lot of advice on going out and meeting people that involves going out and being as social as possible, which is great if you’re naturally an outgoing person (or willing to fake it).