That's like two dozen long-stem roses on Valentine's Day — it's cliché and unimaginative.
With social media, you have the resources to find out your date's interests before the big night.
If you can cater your evening to something you'll both enjoy, you'll have a great time.
After all, your friends are a reflection of you and have probably known you much longer than the person you're dating.
Ditch: Assuming that your friends' advice is the be-all and end-all.
Pretty sure your date asked you and not your five closest friends out. And if that date is terrible, well, it beats not doing anything.
So trust your gut, say what you need to say, BE YOU. If your date asks you out on a last-minute date and you have plans with your friends or something work-related, don't drop everything and run to your date. The Rule: The more time you spend together, the closer you'll become. It's more important to be with someone that you really enjoy spending time with rather than someone who is just simply your type. Ditch: The mentality that dating someone means you must be attached at the hip.
"Do this." "Don't do that." It seems like every time you log in to Facebook, flip through a magazine, gossip with your friends, or text your mum, there it is: dating advice you didn't ask for. Rules of dating are hard to define because every relationship is different. I'm not saying you need to go out of your way to be unavailable to this person, but not always being at their beck and call proves you have a life outside of them, which will make you more attractive. Playing hard to get shouldn't mean hurting the other person.
With a plethora of advice out there, how do we decide which advice to do and which to ditch? Only you can really decide what works and what doesn't. You're a whole person, and you should be looking for another whole that you mutually complement, challenge, and bring out the best in. Have a sense of humour but not always at your date's expense.
Maybe Wednesday's date never called because you were playing too hard to get?
Just like how the things your ex liked are probably not the same as the things your current lover adores. So let's take a glance at the traditional rules of dating and uncover what we should do and what we should ditch. You want to have something to talk about on your first date! If he or she also gave you their number, they want to hear from you. With Tinder and other dating apps, options are at our fingertips, literally. If they ask you out, and you want to hang out with them, don't say no for the sole purpose of "playing the game." Again, there are other options out there.
The Rule: You meet someone, you like that person, you wait three days before you make contact in hopes of not appearing "too desperate." Do: Maintain some space. And even if you convince yourself this is your new soul mate that you can say anything to, you don't want to scare him or her away by appearing too needy or desperate. We are a generation who loves nothing more than instant gratification. And if your partner is attracted to meanness, well, that's a whole other issue.
Sure, we remember what it was like waiting for dial-up, but now that we can get everything instantly, we never want to wait again. The Rule: Wine and dine at the best restaurant in town, cause you're worth it. There's nothing worse than picking up a planned date and then not having a plan. You don't have to break the bank to impress your date.
Not only is it annoying for both parties (especially if you're hungry), it reads that you're not respectful of your date's time. You want the date and your location to be a reflection of you, a place where you feel comfortable and your date will be at ease too.